5 Wedding Etiquette Tips for Guests

Exercise tactful camera use - If the couple requests an unplugged ceremony, that means no camera use, whether film or photo, during the ceremony. They want their photographer to capture the moment professionally without anyone’s phones standing out in photos or distracting guests from the moment. Unless requested otherwise, feel free to take photos during the social hour and reception. If the couple has a hashtag, make sure to add that in any posts you make using the photos, so everyone’s pictures from the event can be found in one place on social media.

Arrive 10-30 minutes prior to the ceremony - not too early, not too late. If you are too early, wait to enter unless you were expected to help behind the scenes because the event may not be completely set up yet. If you are too late, wait until the processional is complete before taking a quiet seat in the back of the ceremony.

RSVP timely and accurately. Invitations are typically sent 6-8 weeks in advance of the event date and a common RSVP deadline is one-month prior. The couple is working to create a seating chart with a seat for you. They will pre-pay for your meal, the centerpiece and linens on your table, and account for you for desserts, beverages, favors, programs, etc. If you were not offered a plus-one, do not bring an extra guest. An exception to this would be if you have a spouse, fiancé, or long-term partner. In that case you may politely request with the couple to bring your partner and get it cleared before RSVPing.

Stick to your commitments. If you RSVPed yes, show up and engage in all of the ways the couple planned for you to participate. Sign the guest book, do the photo booth, try the signature cocktail, enjoy the dinner. The event is essentially non-existent without the guests, so you are a crucial part of the couple’s careful plans coming to life. Out of your love for the couple, bring a positive spirit.

Gift the couple. Find the couple’s wedding registry (most likely on their website) to fulfill a requested gift and have it shipped to the couple or bring it to their wedding. Alternatively, gifting cash or a check in a card is appropriate and sometimes even preferred.